The letter

Oct. 14th, 2014 01:24 pm
outofwater: Me outside St John's before my confirmation at the Easter Vigil 2016 (Default)
[personal profile] outofwater
So here's the letter I sent to my choir this morning (and which my boss sent on to notify the vestry and the rest of the staff). Rehearsal tomorrow night should be interesting. (So far, four responses: two choir members, one vestry spouse, and one vestry member.)

All the responses so far have been encouraging.


A few days ago, I gave Father Derek my resignation. My final Sunday will be in just over a month.

Part of the reason is burnout. My reaction to the parts of the job that I have found difficult has grown to consume more and more of my attention and my energy as time has gone on. Were this the only reason, I would have attempted to find adjustments that would permit me to continue.

However, over the past few years, I have also been coming to an understanding of who I am which does not match how I have been presenting myself to you. And I have reached the point where I can't continue hiding who I am; that is, where I can't continue hiding that I am a transgender woman.

A word on terminology: a transgender woman is somebody who despite the anatomy they were born with identifies as a woman. It isn't about impersonation or performance, it is about who I am.

I recognize that there are those who will be uncomfortable with this and others who will object based upon their beliefs. So while I have come to the point where I need to be more open about who I am, I also believe that continuing in a staff position during this transition would lead to controversy and division within the parish, and be a distraction from (and detriment to) the real mission of St. John's, as well as adding to how difficult it would be for me to handle my responsibilities as your choir director.

I want to thank you all for everything you all do for this parish and for all you have done over the last four and a half years to welcome me and to help lead music here at St. John's. I ask for your prayers, and you will continue to be in my prayers.

So a month left, and rehearsal tomorrow night will definitely be interesting.

(no subject)

Date: 10/15/14 12:16 pm (UTC)
kayre: (Default)
From: [personal profile] kayre
That is a marvelous letter. I'm glad they've reacted positively; I hope the remaining time together is full of grace for all of you.

September 2017

2425 2627282930

Page Summary

Style Credit

Expand Cut Tags

No cut tags